Choosing to spend time by yourself can boost everything from self-awareness to happiness.
Alone but not lonely: Zoe McDonald explores the merits of solitary alignment on page 78 of February’s The Simple Things. “The deep focus you need to build and hone an idea comes from the ‘slow mind’. Time alone is crucial to allow ourselves space”, she says.
Not used to being on your own? Have a read through these suggestions from David Waters’ How to Spend Time Alone class.
SOLITUDE FOR BEGINNERS
Ease yourself in. Try going for a walk by yourself and gradually be in your own company for longer and longer periods before embarking on a long stint such as a weekend alone.
Be prepared for anything. When you first start to connect to who you really are, you may be surprised by what you find.
Find ‘flow’ activities for your alone time such as reading, exercise, craftmaking or making music. l Don’t panic if at first you find spending time alone feels disorientating or even frightening. Take a step back and do a little less alone time until you feel comfortable again.
Alone time gives you the chance to discover what lies behind your public self – your authentic or true self. Be patient and let this emerge.
Intrigued? We’d also recommend a read of How to be Alone by Sara Maitland, published by the wonderful School of Life.